pitygirl:

roxolotl:

I think we need to talk about how dangerous softboy nerd sexual predators are. Every single time I’ve been creeped on or taken advantage of in college it wasn’t by a drunken jock fratboy. It was by a soft anxious nonthreatening nerd boy whose strategy was to get compassionate girls to feel sorry for him

This is seriously an issue. Every time I reject a guy, his immediate reaction is to try and guilt trip me into giving him a chance. I can spot it right away so I respond with “I said I wasn’t interested, you need to stop being manipulative” but there’s probably so many sweet girls who aren’t able to do that.

Once a boy kept harassing me for nudes and I kept saying no and I finally snapped and got very firm with him, and he said “calm down it’s not like I raped you. ” So whether or not these men are doing it intentionally or not, they are using coercion and manipulation tactics to pursue girls, and then gaslight when they get called out.

I’ve also had boys hit on me using a guilt trip before I even reject him. They’ll start a conversation with “I’m lonely, I can’t find a girlfriend, I’m ugly etc.” I find it disturbing that males think emotional abuse and mind games are acceptable because “it’s not rape. ”

1980smusic:

what i expect from an 80s party: depeche mode, duran duran, yazoo, DEVO, david bowie

what the DJ plays at an 80s party: three solid hours of madonna and michael jackson